The Slow Down: Guilt & the "Good Girl" Script

Maybe you were the reliable daughter. The back-up parent. The self-sacrificing, emotionally available, endlessly responsible one. And maybe you simply grew up… and never put that role down. If that resonates, this conversation is for you. Her Soul Supply is back with another invitation for women to slow down and connect through elevated, therapist-led conversations about our relationship to power. In this month’s Slow Down, we’re unpacking the invisible script many women inherit in childhood — the “good girl.” Led by Her Soul Supply Founder Fanny Tristan, LCSW, alongside Trauma Specialist Tracy Vadakumchery, LMHC — whose work centers guilt and expectations for women from cultural and religious communities— this guided salon will explore: Why guilt shows up the moment you set a boundary How cultural and family conditioning shape the “good girl” role The quiet ways obedience gets rewarded — and autonomy gets punished What it actually looks like to choose yourself without shame Through reflection, conversation, and shared stories in community — over libations and light bites — we’ll slow down long enough to notice the ways the “good girl” script may still be shaping us. Come curious. Leave clearer. About the Hosts Her Soul Supply: Her Soul Supply is a coaching collective and community created for women of color who are ready to release outdated timelines and reconnect with self-trust, joy, and purpose. Founded by licensed psychotherapist and women’s empowerment coach Fanny Tristan, LCSW, the space blends clinical insight with heart-centered leadership through coaching, workshops, retreats, and curated gatherings. Her Soul Supply creates room for healing, expansion, and meaningful connection, inviting women to choose themselves and move forward with intention. Tracy Vadakumchery, LMHC is a trauma therapist whose work centers on guilt, obligation, and the invisible expectations placed on women within cultural and religious communities. Through her platform, The Bad Indian Therapist, she explores how deeply ingrained messages around duty, sacrifice, and “being good” shape the way women relate to themselves and others. Her work challenges the normalization of self-abandonment, helping women recognize how guilt is often a learned response—not a moral truth. Tracy creates space for women to question inherited roles, unpack internalized pressure, and begin choosing themselves without shame. A Community for All, with BIPOC Women at the heart.